Are we too protective for our children’s own good?

 

Being a relatively new parent has caused me to rethink a lot of my ideas about parenthood in general.  Most notably of these is the idea of keeping my little one safe from all the harms of the world.  Both the accidental and the nefarious.

When I was little, and this is almost cliche now, I would stay out until dark, play around and in the streets, travel sometimes miles away from the house and never had any communication with my mother until I finally got home.   The rule was that I had to be at home when the street lights would start coming on, and I found a loophole in that by locating one of the lamps near my house that would not come on until well after dark.   I used that as my lamp by which to go home.

Now that I am a father, and living in the world that I live in, I see that children are exposed to so much more than I was when I was his age.   Yes, the world is more dangerous and things move a lot faster these days, but I have to wonder if keeping him close and protecting him from all this is healthy.

At some point he is going to experience the world, and I have to wonder if all my protection that I am trying to provide for him as he grows will help or hinder his progress.   I know that I should be there for him and make sure that he is safe and cared for, but I also know from personal experience that part of what made me the person I am is the mistakes I made, the accidents I had and the problems I caused when my mother was not around to monitor me.  They have become part of who I am.

So the question becomes… By my wife and I protecting and shielding him, are we going to end up stunting his emotional and social growth?  Will he be less of a man because of our actions?

Who is to say.   There are, as I have found out, many sides to the argument and it does not seem that any one has a single answer that they can prove beyond any doubt is the right one.  So it goes back to the old philosophy about parenting that describes it as a crap-shoot.  You take your chances, do your best and let the dice fall where they will.  In time, only TIME and our best efforts will tell.

 

Making a name…

 

I have been writing for a while now.  I have determined that it is a thankless endeavor that, like a an astronomer once said of his own vocation, builds character.

The genesis of this came from an event today, as I walked around my “Day Job” and mentioned to someone that I am an aspiring writer.   I then sent them a link to an item I have published through Amazon.com.

The response made me feel good.  Two of the women advised me that they were in the midst of a celebrity and at one point I was referred to as a “Baller”, which at first sounds bad, but then when I looked it up in on Urban Dictionary, I learned it was a complement.  So even though these two people have not read my work, they are complementing me.

No… I am not complaining.  I would like the support to be more along the lines of their reactions after reading me work, so that they can base the praise on that and not simply that I did write something.

But… that being said… a thank you to Kami and Colleen for their praise… I will never turn my nose up to praise.

Plans for the SamuraiMarine ten year anniversary

I know that it is still a ways off, but I am thinking about some ideas for what to do to celebrate the SamuraiMarine Blog ten-year anniversary.

Yes… September 17, 2015 will be the tenth year of operations for the SamuraiMarine Blog.  For better for worse and with all the bumps in between, we will have been chugging along for a decade at this point.

I am not sure what I will be doing to celebrate the occasion, but I am willing to entertain some suggestions from my readers.

Writing around

As the few of you that actually visit my site may have noticed, I have not been writing the bulk of my work here.  But I have been writing.

I have been trying to find a happy medium between writing her and writing on my HubPages site that I use.  Needless to say, that site has been winning here of late.

But I am going to start putting things up here again as well.  There are some things that I cannot post there with the type of layout that I like for the shorter pieces that I will put together.

So keep your eyes open, people.

 

Another story on the blocks

 

Hello all…

I would like to bring all your attention to my newest story that I put up on Kindle, and that is titled “Three Stories by SR Wright.”

 

Sorry, I could not thing of anything more original for the name, but this is three stories on three different genres of writing. Horror/Violence, Philosophical and Religious.

 

I encourage you to invest the $1.50 in me and give it a chance.

 

Follow this link, Three Stories by SR Wright.

 

Thanks.

No More Politics

 

I have decided that I am no longer going to write about politics on this site.

At least not directly or exclusively. I will write about politics if a particular issue I am discussing mentions something related to it, but that will be about it.

You see… With everything that is going on in the world right now, there does not seem to be a “Right” or “Wrong” side to politics, it all seems to be this vast field of grey with all sides making up their own rules as they go along. I cannot seem to find enough redeeming qualities about any politician that can make me feel like “They are the one.”

I am of the personal opinion that politicians and prostitutes are almost in the same category, the only difference is that at least with prostitutes, there is more honesty. At least with them, you KNOW the end result is that you will get screwed and it is going to cost you.

 

As always… thank you for reading.

How goes the world?

I have not posted in a while, so I thought I would throw a little text at the screen.

It is hard to believe that this site is rapidly approaching ten years in operation.  More important to me is the fact that in the ten year, I have considered shutting it down several times and then decided to keep it up and running.

My reason for keeping it has not been my loyal following, of which I think I have none, even the people I consider my closest friends do not appear to notice whether or not I post anything.

Nor is it the vast amounts of money I make from the site, since to date I have been banned by Google and their tyrannical approach to running ads on sites and not allowing any forgiveness when a mistake is made and then using other programs I have only made about $19 dollars.

Nor is it the support I have received from the people that I have asked to join me in this mission of expression, having had three people that I have asked to be guest writers and then, then they accepted, never received any work from them.

No… this is, at its core, a labor of painful love.   I do love writing, even though there has not been a lot of it going on her and I am sure that this has cost me some of the few readers I did have.   At its core this has and will remain a place for me to discuss issues that concern me, talk about current affairs and problems.

For those of you that MIGHT still be reading this site, and checking in from time to time, thank you. I plan on working more on it in the near future. For those of you that are finding it for the first time; Welcome… please stick around and give me a chance to amuse you.

To everyone… thanks again.

Guest Writer program

I am thinking about bringing back the guest blogger/writer program.

If you are interested in being considered, please send me an email or tweet and I will add you to the list.   Decisions will be made on July 1st for whom I will accept.  There may be more than one, depending on the response and quality of the contributions.

Thanks.