It’s strange how things work out. How you plan something, working out what you think are important details, then when you are actually at the point where the thing you had hoped and planned for, actually comes to pass… nothing you planned actually survives first contact with reality.
This is like the old saying, “No battle plan survives first contact with the enemy.” Only in this case there is no enemy, just the realization of our dreams.
One of the things that Naty and I spoke about for years was names for any children we might have. We wanted to have names that were not JUST names for the sake of a name. We wanted strong, powerful or meaningful names that the child would grow into and might, through understanding the origin of their name, strive to live a live that would pay honor or respect to their namesake.
My name, Samuel, was given to me for two reasons. First, it was the name of my father and second, for Samuel the Prophet. I am sure that my mother considered other names, but to her, she saw the name Samuel or, in Hebrew, Shmu’el, for me. Likewise, my brother was given the name Benjamin, The Patriarch. While neither of us became anything special or worthy of the history of the names we were given, they were strong names none the less.
When we spoke of naming our child, we thought, ever so briefly, of naming a boy Samuel. But then we considered the lineage. My Name is Samuel; my father’s name was Samuel, and the same with my Grandfather and great-grandfather. Needless to say, there was some repetition in the choice of names. So we decided that subjecting our child to the doomed title of the 4th was not an option.
One of the names that we thought of early for a boy was Ellery. I have always liked that name, and I used to read the Ellery Queen Mystery Magazine on a regular basis as well as watch the TV series of the same name, back a few years ago. In spite of the popular and literary history of the name, it too has a good past and meaning. So we were happy with that.
For girl’s names, there really was never a question about that. It was always going to be one of two names. It was going to be either Lydia Elizabeth or Daisy Faye, both names that paid homage to our families. Lydia was for Naty’s mother and Elizabeth for my mother’s middle name. Daisy was also to celebrate Naty’s mom by using the name she had as a child and Faye was for my Grandmother, on my mom’s side, who passed away when my mother was very young.
I am not sure why choosing a boy’s name was so much more difficult that picking a girl’s name, it just seemed like nothing worked until we found Ellery.
Reality sets in…
Everything you see written prior to this changed the moment we discovered that we were pregnant. Prior to that point, it was all purely speculation, just thinking about what we would do if it actually happened.
We had been trying for some time, but since nothing was happening, we were getting to that point that most people get to at some point where we were just accepting that it would not happen to us. It was one of those things where we were not ready for our wish to actually be granted. Suddenly the names that we had spent so much time thinking about and considering for their meaning and strength, we called into question. “Did we really want to name a child this?” We asked ourselves, and then set about to rethink all our plans.
Looking through our past and through the various names we liked, we came up with our choices. I will not post these here, the people who need to know what they are, know. When they child is born and we know what sex it is, then we will name the child. At that time, I will add a post welcoming the child into the world and sharing this new life with you. Let it be said for now, that the naming process… the selection of the names was not as easy as we thought it was. There was a lot to consider, but I think we have some winners that will be strong names and will celebrate the family.