How often have you ever been talking to a person that you have not seen in a while, then upon parting, you make that commitment that we all, or at least many of us, renege on?
I do not think that we intend to lie to a person when we tell them that we will call them later, or discuss the option of getting together sometime. I believe that we make these plans with every intent on keeping them. Then life just… gets in the way. Other things happen and we keep pushing the effort to keep that promise off further and further, until, many times, it escapes our thought altogether, or at least until the next time we see them.
I am especially bad about this, and I know and admit it. I cannot even count, anymore, the number of friends that I have let go because I have not made the effort to keep in touch. I understand that friendship is a two-way street, and I should not be the only one that makes the effort. But I should at least try.
It is not that I do not like these people, it is just, as I stated earlier, that life seems to get in the way. Other things come up and take precedence over the option of calling others or writing letters to people.
As an example, let me tell you about a friend of mine. He and I practically grew up together and were always hanging out in High School and on the weekends. When we graduated from high school, we still got together all the time. This lasted until he moved to Texas. We were and are still as close as a phone call, but there is something that makes making that effort hard. I am not sure what, but it is there.
Luckily, I guess, I am not alone. Before writing this piece, I spoke to several people about this phenomena, and many said that they have had the same problem. In some case people have even stopped staying in close contact with family members. There are even a couple cases where the people I spoke to have family that live in the same town, and they still do not keep in touch.
I would like you, who are reading this now, to tell me your stories about this and why you think it happens. Tell me, in your own words, what you do to justify it to yourself or to explain the reasoning away. I am not trying to put any of you on the spot, but I would like to get your opinions on this.
Thanks for reading.