Something that I am looking forward to, with the coming of our child, are the conversations. Granted, at first those conversations are going to be mostly grunts, squeals and crying, with occasional laughing and “Baby Talk”. But before you know it, and I am sure most parents reading this will agree, they will start talking.
I remember some of the conversations I had, as a very young child, with my Mother and Father. Most of that was silly, when I look at it from my adult state of mind, but at the time it was earth-shatteringly important. I really HAD to know why there were stitches in a baseball and football. I really HAD to know why my Dad’s hair was gray. Things like that.
When I watch the interactions between kids, especially the very young ones, and their parents, there is just something fascinating about watching them ask questions and learn about their world. They are born with a innate NEED to understand the world around them. As Dr. Neil DeGrasse Tyson says in one of his interviews, “Children are born scientists.”
He goes on in that interview to say that we need to encourage that and help them explore their world the way a scientist would. This is something that I am hoping that my wife and I can accomplish in our upbringing of this kid. We have both committed to one another that we will give this child every ounce of our effort to make sure that they learn as much as they can and to make it fun in the process.
I know… Kids are all different and there is no guarantee that anything we plan will survive the arrival of the baby. It seems that everyone is quick to point this out to us, as if they assume that we are not already aware of this ourselves. But the truth be known, we are. But we are also aware that if we do not plan ahead for some things, then we will not be ready for those times when the child does start asking questions.
I think that I was blessed that I grew up in a house where I had a parent that offered me every opportunity to learn. There was never a time I can recall asking my mother a question and her telling me that I did not need to know the answer or that I should not worry about it. I do recall a couple times when she said something like, “I will explain it when you are a little older.” but that was about as restricted as she got with me.
There are some things kids do not need to know about at too early an age. I will not go into that here, because it might turn this into a political argument, but I am sure that you all understand what some of these things are. Suffice it to say that children should be allowed to remain children and not have to worry about some things until later in life.
There IS a magic to being a child, but we lose touch with that as we grow older and become more jaded with life and the problems around us. I hope to try and teach our child that they can grow, but still hold onto that magic as they age.